Disconnection Between Parents and Kids...Who is at fault?

They weren’t given attention when they were kids. Now that they have grown up they have been accused...Why are you doing this? The behavior or the attitude of the kid has been molded by the circumstances, it is not revenge, but it comes naturally. Emotional blackmailing takes place as emotional blackmailing is the oldest norm, how it can be forgotten. The conversation is ended when they have been played by emotional cards.They shed tears, feel trapped, but nobody knows who is actually at fault.The comparison is there (with other children) when you do bad, but it's not when you do good. We are trapped by emotional barriers.The easy one is trapped, the loud one doesn’t have to face (reference to kids). The world we live is in the hand of convenience, emotional play and brutal hands.

We forget when a kid is growing, he/she needs both the parents. Mother to pamper them and father to make them strong. If any of the parent is missing, it wrecks the child in different ways, it is not obvious but it is there, the connection is broken between the parent-kid, and when the parent come back after a long decade, expects to continue the bounding and expects too much in terms of emotions, but then it's too late, the feeling is gone and is never connected again, the way it would have if the parent was there, just there, the disconnection is inevitable then.These connections are meant to be built in early stages of life. The child lacks some of the major personal traits, nobody notices and if they do notice, they are unaware of the reason but when the child’s behavior is not proper and subtle with the respective parent, he/she is being questioned and pressurized time and again, without focusing and analyzing their own mistakes and the entire fault is on the kid, and the kid being not in power is charged guilty. He/she is confused, lost and is under accusation.That is how society work,that is how it is.

The fights that have been done in front of the kid, that too heavily, how can anyone expect it wouldn’t effect the kid.The fights do harm children and are shown later on in life, they are embedded in the kids’mind and are reacted by different ways later in life resulting in creating more differences and more negativity. But when a child is grown, parents expect the child to grow up and to forget everything and want themselves to believe that their children are full on personalty traits. If something is lacking in the personality then its their fault, forgetting whats been the past

We live in a world where a person who is not in power is always been targeted. Parents are always perceived to be right, but  we forget that there are times when they are wrong, they make mistakes and they should own it without trapping the kids into emotional barriers. One should know why the connection is not there, self analysis should be done irrespective of being a parent or a child. Pushing the child down and making them feel guilty wouldn’t help in doing anything positive but will more destroy and shatter the child’s confidence. Forcing the child to build a connection wouldn’t help, to build a connection in a way that the child even doesn’t know, that’s the way out. Emotional blackmailing has never been  the way out to any solution, it shouldn’t be the easy way but it should be the last way.